Embracing Perfection in Love: The Ho’oponopono Journey

Once upon a time, I sat in the audience of a talk given by Dr. Percy Gumbrill, a well-known doctor from Herrison Hospital, Dorset, U.K. He shared an unusual viewpoint, suggesting that falling in love is akin to a kind of mental turmoil.

Dr. Gumbrill explained, during the whirlwind of falling in love, our protective mechanisms skyrocket, causing us to see an idealized version of our partner. Instead of seeing their quirks and habits, we project our virtues onto them and convince ourselves that any imperfections we notice aren’t truly a part of them.

Fast forward to a year or eighteen months later. The rose-coloured glasses fall off, and we see our partners for who they are, quirks and all. We’re then faced with a choice: to accept them, flaws and all, and continue to grow our love story or decide to go separate ways.

Dr. Gumbrill’s perspective resonated with me for a while, but now my views have changed, enlightened by the teachings of Ho’oponopono as shared by Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona and Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len.

Here’s what I’ve learned:

When we fall in love, we’re not seeing an illusion, but rather a glimpse of the true essence of our partner—a flawless being of light. It’s our own perceptions that colour this reality over time.

Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona, the revered Hawaiian Kahuna and teacher of Ho’oponopono, proposed the metaphor of a person being like a triangle within a square. This purest self, is located at its apex and referred to as Ke Akua l’o or Divinity. It is a force of love and mercy.

The ancient Hawaiians taught that each of us carries an invisible basket through our many lives, gathering burdensome stones along the way. With Ho’oponopono, we consciously choose to let go of these weights, asking Divinity to forgive us for being swayed by their form and neglecting its advice to travel light. By doing so, we are led back to the state of wisdom, peace, and perfection we initially saw in our beloved.

Ho’oponopono teaches us to consciously discard these rocks, asking Divinity for forgiveness for getting distracted by their weight and turning our focus away from the path of love and peace.

Through this practice, we can return to the state of wisdom, peace, and perfection that we saw in our partners when we first fell in love. Ho’oponopono, therefore, not only helps us manage our relationships but also brings us closer to our own Divinity. It guides us to see beyond the veil of habits and quirks, and embrace the perfect being of light within each of us.