Ho’oponopono and Heartbreak: “Can I Rekindle Love with Cleansing?”

At one point or another, many of us have been swept off our feet by the intoxicating sensation of love. It’s an all-consuming feeling where the thought of losing that special person seems unbearable. We might find ourselves wishing, “If only they loved me as much as I loved them.” But in ho’oponopono, these thoughts and the emotions they stir up are recognized as areas that need ‘cleaning.’

Unscrupulous individuals may persuade you to use manipulative tactics to strengthen your attachment to another person. Be wary. This is a form of dark magic, a concept the ancient Polynesians, the originators of ho’oponopono, were very familiar with.

Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona, the one who introduced us to the modern form of ho’oponopono, was no stranger to such attacks. She knew how to resist them. The key to understanding dark magic lies in the belief that the external world and the realm of emotions and pain are real. For the magic to work, this belief must exist, even if it’s a remnant of past lives or ancestral memories.

Ho’oponopono, however, doesn’t subscribe to this belief. Instead, it proposes that we are responsible for everything we experience in our lives. So, if a partner leaves, we are accountable for both their presence in our lives and their departure.

Yes, the term ‘ho’oponopono’ translates to ‘correct an error.’ But the error may not necessarily be the partner leaving. It could be that their role in our lives has reached its completion, and it’s time for you both to move forward.

When we practice ho’oponopono, we’re not clinging to the other person but forming an attachment to Divinity. This connection allows us to express Love (synonymous with Divinity) equally to all beings. It’s an unconditional love, akin to nurturing a wild animal back to health before releasing it into the wild.

If a former partner doesn’t wish to be with us, no amount of manipulation can change that. Ian Fleming, in one of his novels, shares a tale of a man who kept a woman chained under a table, feeding her scraps. This cruel act didn’t make her love him; it merely forced her into a dependent attachment.

Trying to possess someone, including a former partner, is a path to sorrow. Instead, cleanse your attachment to their memory until you’re connected with Divinity. Then, if they’re truly meant for you, they’ll return willingly. If not, understand that it was never meant to be.

Remember: Clean, Clean, Clean.